What happens when you don't pay adequate attention to you?  When you don't pay attention to you, you become like a dull saw.  And when you don't sharpen the saw, as President Lincoln said many years ago, you become ineffective and even the simple tasks seem difficult.

If you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy with your fear, your fear becomes your reality.  Your fear of pain, discomfort, or embarrassment becomes the thing that causes you to avoid doing WHATEVER it takes to help yourself. 

If you go for the short-term gain, you could end up with long-term pain and your frustration tolerance is very likely to be lowered to the ground. 

To make a superior comeback during these competitive times, you'd better learn how to go for the short-term pain, long-term gain model. 

If you feel a passion for your path, know why you're doing what you're doing, understand where you're going, be clear about what your plan is, have strategies for staying mentally healthy, and have an accountability partner who knows how to help you stretch yourself without snapping, you may have a considerable advantage. 

How are you going to get there?  If you keep doing the same thing--you'll quite possibly keep getting the same thing.  So, you probably want to pull yourself out of the vicious cycle! So, the first step is to GET HONEST.

On top of that, the second step is to CREATE A HUGE MENTAL SHIFT within yourself--a shift which potentially leads you to have a magnetic, personality that attracts more of you want by giving you the STRENGTH to take the actions you know you could take.  (This is the essence of the mental game of success.)

If you want to begin to create such a shift for yourself, I suggest you start immediately! Isn't it ridiculous to continue to use a pattern that isn't working & make yourself continue to suffer?  It is time to create a new reality for yourself by developing improved frustration tolerance and self-acceptance!